It's one thing to speak your truth, but how much more powerful it is to live it, embody it and be it. Those who really embody their truth don't have to speak it or convince others because if there's integrity with your word then you already are that truth.

The importance of taking action. For some people taking action is speaking their truth and that is a really healthy way to express where we are to take action, to move forward and that for others it's to lead by the being rather than always the doing. Both offer different pathways and both are equally necessary for change. In fact we as individuals and a collective are always going to find ourselves in a constant state of flux between the being and the doing.

If we are living in alignment from a healthy place we will always find ourselves living in that flux. Sometimes the overspeaking of something that we strongly believe in takes away from the essence of actually embodying it.

How to recognize when we might be out of alignment with embodying our truth or when someone else might be out of alignment so that we can walk through life with healthy discernment on who we choose and allow their words to guide or influence us. That's a really important awareness to have in our own personal space. 

Sometimes what we can find is that there are a lot of people saying a lot of things but they're not doing or being what they say. Take radical responsibility for ourselves before we choose to speak. In doing the personal, inner work, allowing yourself to process and feel emotions. Knowing if you're feeling pulled to something one way or the other, too much attachment to it because you're attached to feeling good. You're attached to feeling connected. You're attached to feeling accepted. You're attached to feeling like you're part of a tribe that feels the same way. If you're attached to a fear or an ego or the need to protect or defend yourself. All of those attachments are ego agendas that are coming from an unhealthy place.

When we speak from a place of the need to make others wrong, then we are out of alignment. When we speak from a place of needing to be heard and recognized we are out of alignment. When we speak from a place of something to prove, to prove ourselves, we're out of alignment. When we are speaking from a place of being defensive. We're out of alignment when we speak to make others wrong or even if we're maybe not aware of how other people are feeling, we're out of alignment when people get hurt. Now, this is a tricky one because although we do not have to take the responsibility for how other people feel, it is our responsibility to speak in a way of being conscious of how what we say lands on other people. Having that 360 awareness of just noticing that I'm attached to my idea or belief or opinion that everything is this way and this way is the right way, then what does that say about the people who are in the other belief? And what I know for myself over the years coming from a place of in my earlier years always feeling the need to prove or defend or speak or really have this fierce, full empowered way of speaking. There's a difference in delivering the message from a place of proving something and a place of knowing something. 

Embodiment is a place of knowing. Oftentimes people who spend a lot of time talking about who they are, what they do from a place of wanting you to know in every conversation that you have with them. If the conversation isn't interested in seeking your beliefs, noticing how you feel or interested in your perspective, then oftentimes that person might not be fully embodied in their own truth, but might be on their own discovery of finding out what it is that is true for them. They may even be having their process through the words that they're speaking through. The integrity of our word is important. Being a good person, doing the right thing, whether people are looking or not, and just being mindful of what we say, what we do, and who we are in our own personal space and really getting super clear and noticing what are the shadows, what are the ego agendas, what are the fears, what are the blocks, what are the emotions that come up and giving ourselves permission to do that work and be super clear and honest about it so that it doesn't come out in a sneaky way through our words. 

Quote calling people out, making people feel wrong or blamed or telling them who they are or what they believe in. When we find ourselves doing that, then we're out of alignment. Notice when you are speaking, what is the feeling in your body? Keeping 1 ft in that grounded calm space and then dipping the toe in the emotion, that's a healthy way for some people to start to explore and give themselves permission to feel. There is a lot of stigma in our culture around certain emotions being unhealthy, such as anger, which is a completely healthy emotion to express as long as it isn't expressed outwardly towards others. Sadness can be seen as weakness, which is a completely healthy emotion to express grief. 

Our disconnect with our emotions has led us to a place where we struggle to communicate effectively with people. We struggle to ask for what we need, we struggle to know our own truth because we don't spend enough time being with it, with the whole picture. Practice noticing how you feel when you speak. If you feel calm and aligned with nothing to prove, nothing to defend, no need to be acknowledged, no fear around being rejected, then that is a place of speaking from alignment. The more that you do that, there's this feeling that comes through you that actually feels calm, peace, freedom in knowing that you don't even have to tell people because you already know that you are your truth. 

Social media is a platform where people are influencing and encouraging and there's a lot of positive coming from it and there's also a lot of condescending comments and making people wrong and excluding people. If you are a person who values the integrity of your word, your truth, your dignity, your morals, your values, if this is who you are, you might find that it's difficult to engage in conversations like that. Lean into that discomfort, you might find that most people are not in integrity with their values and their beliefs, that many people who seem to be aligned because they have this image that looks so put together they speak it, that they actually are not. This is sort of the shadow of social media. 

If you find yourself comparing yourself to others, trying to figure out your truth, trying to allow yourself to be in the presence of others that are like you, think like you to discover your own truth, to go within and allow the body to be a tool. Notice how it feels when you speak, when you're with people. If you're overwhelmed or exhausted, it's likely out of alignment. If you feel tight or resistant, it's an invitation to lean in and see if there's something that needs to be healed or if it's out of alignment. If people get hurt, it's likely out of alignment. 

If we follow our heart, if we stay in alignment, the result is a win-win situation where we can see and honor people for where they are, for what they bring to the table. We can see the value in how they are different from us. We can say to ourselves and see with an open heart that just because they don't have the skills or talents or beliefs that we do or even the values that we do, it doesn't make them less than us. It actually might make them more valuable because they can show us an expanded point of view of what we might be missing or what our blind spot might be because we all have blind spots and we all have ego agendas that are trying to keep us safe, that want us to feel loved, that want us to be acknowledged, that wants to look or feel a certain way that want us to be successful, make more money, all of those things that are ego agendas that we think are going to bring us happiness, but we're still seeking outside of ourselves. So the truth is that everything that we need is already within us and when we choose to embody that and like that and be that, then we feel and we know that we already are everything we need to be.

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Jen Mons is an author, speaker, mentor and coach for high achieving purpose driven ready to shift the paradigm of feminine leadership and redefine excellence and wealth through 5 Element Wellth, Prosperity, Daily Devotion Journaling and Soul Wisdom Imprinting.