Dancing with Deception

Deception or untruth, or perceived truth or misalignment. Those are all words that I think of when I think of deception. I'm curious, what do you think of it?

Unauthentic is another word that comes to mind, and I'm going to invite you to explore with me the idea that we're all dancing with deception in some way. And some of you may be noticing a very heavy energy around deception, whether it's what you're witnessing in people in your life. Maybe relationships have altered or shifted or changed in your life.

I want to invite you for a moment just to consider where in your life have you done that recently? Maybe even as a parent responding to something your child did or something at work, maybe you felt scarcity or lack of trust in your health and well being. But where in your life have you been reactive versus responsive? And what were you reacting to? What was triggering or activating your reactivity? 

And the one we're going to talk about today is deception and what's happening right now, because there's many beliefs that deception is showing up across the board in many different ways. Some of you may be experiencing a lack of trust in government or structures or organizations within the government. Maybe you're feeling a lack of trust in information that you're receiving. Maybe you're feeling a lack of trust in relationships, and maybe you're a person that generally trusts everything, but there's this little energy of uncertainty. Maybe it's in relationships that you're in, that you're just noticing there's something that's out of alignment.

And so all of this is an invitation to connect to your body, your experience, and ask yourself what is true for me. When you notice this sensation of lack of trust or deception, ask yourself, where am I not fully embodied in my own life? This is really interesting. I'm going to put a little twist on this when it comes to the word authenticity and trust, because you may be a person who is trustworthy. Many people who are trustworthy easily trust others. And sometimes, we notice that the people who do not trust others usually can be very untrustworthy because they're afraid people are going to be like them. So just pay attention to that. Pay attention to relationships with people who are afraid of everything. Don't trust anybody because whatever ideas it is that they have around what people might be doing to them, they're already thinking of.

So this is a shadow of deception and trust and how it shows up for experiences. And then on the other hand, those of us that trust too easily, who are trustworthy and trust easily. I want to invite you to acknowledge the possible hard truth that the reason you're so easily trusting in others is because maybe underneath the surface, you have the deeply rooted fear of trusting in yourself. And what is the story around that? What is the story around your relationship with trust?

Because what deception needs is transparency. When we don't trust something, because we don't fully understand it, we feel deceived. Something is out of alignment. A person is unauthentic. What we want is transparency. We want truth, we want exposure, we want information. We need something tangible in order to trust. And there are other ways to connect with trust and transparency without external validation. By developing your connection to your body, wisdom, to your own intuition, to God, to source, to something bigger than you and really let go of the idea that you are the center of the universe, because you are the universe.

So just notice for a moment an area of your life, a relationship that's showing up. Relationships can be with your body, with your health, with your doctor, with your beliefs, with a person. And have you noticed a feeling of deception or lack of understanding that has triggered or activated a reactivity of mistrust and scarcity rather than a response?

And I want to invite you to consider that you can choose to respond by leaning into how that experience is for you. By asking yourself, where am I not fully embodied in my truth? Because if we can see deception in the world, then we have that energy within us. And so even if we're a trustworthy person, maybe we're not being true to ourselves in every way. And maybe we're doing this by trusting others too much or not trusting anybody at all. So notice the extremes that we can go to, because even those extremes in that moment feel safe because they're more certain.

And so deception in the collective right now is calling us to be more embodied out of our heads, out of our minds, out of analyzing, letting go of that, and also letting go of the wounded heart, emotional energy, and dropping into the body from a place of feeling grounded and presenting and showing up with radical honesty and self responsibility.

Deception shows up like blame, blame shifting. It shows up like competition. It shows up like avoidance, shows up like self sabotaging. It shows up in being fake, manipulative, narcissistic, controlling, anxiety, tyranny. So just noticing the different ways that deception shows up in your life, and just being curious around the stories that come up around that. What does it say if you choose to believe a certain belief? Because the thing is that we're all experiencing our own truth at that moment. Two people can be in an experience together and have very different truths. So just consider for a moment that our truth is perceived truth from our own experiences. And so this is why it's important to do, to commit, to be devoted to clearing energetically those unhealthy programs, that subconscious reprogramming, the loss of the connection to your inner child, the loss of the connection to your body, the loss of connection to God in spirit and source.

All of those things that you believe have happened, have not happened. You're still the same person. The difference is how you're perceiving the experiences. I like to call it the fall from grace. The thing that's making us unhappy and feeling unwell is that we perceive that we are separate and we never were.

Deception also shows up as separation, feeling alone, avoidance, rejection, abandonment. Those are the core wounds that show up around that, that cause us to feel like we can't trust others, that we are being deceived. And each individual's truth comes from their own experience. And we all have to have our own experiences to have our truth.

So we are not responsible for what other people believe. It is not up to us to save them, to influence them. But what we can do is we can listen, and we can listen to them, and we can listen to our body. We can listen to our intuition and be willing to commit to the devotional practice of being present, not in the future, not in the fear, the anxiety, not in the past, not in regret or shame or guilt, but this moment, right now. Deception needs transparency, radical honesty, radical self responsibility, and healthy communication. Seeking to understand.

Honor yourself for your willingness to listen to this conversation around the idea that we're all dancing with deception in some way that might be responsible for creating some scarcity around trust in some area of our life.

And the question for you to ask is, where am I not fully embodied in my truth? Where am I not showing up in transparency? Authentically? What relationship in my life am I not authentic to in alignment with? Because this is what's speaking to you. This is the bridge. It doesn't really matter what the rest of the world says. You get to choose and discern your truth.

So I want to invite you just to keep practicing. Create a practice, a devotion, a willingness, the courage to commit. Do a daily or weekly or biweekly, some type of practice to just notice if you're embodied in your truth and if you don't know what that is, then I'd invite you to be willing to discover. 

Be willing to discover. Start with what your core values are. Start asking your closest five friends and family, five words that describe you. Notice if you're showing up in your core values to others. Create a life wheel circle of all the different areas of your life. Health, finances, marriage, family, nutrition, career, spirituality, physical well being, emotional well being. And notice where your values fall on that lifecycle map. And really take a look at am I embodied in my truth? If I say I value this, is this where I'm putting my time and energy? Is this what I'm putting my time, energy and attention to? The things that I value most and everything else.

Be willing to say to yourself or explore the idea that you're not available for anything else. You're not available for things that are out of alignment with your values because someone else can be. But what happens if I'm available only for the things that matter for me? You don't have to worry about all that other stuff. Let somebody else get that. We've all got different values and I want to invite you to make choices. 

Enter the right relation. Right relation with partnerships, whether it be business or marriage, or food or health, but right relation with the embodiment of your values. Be in the right relationship, energetically aligned and sovereign only to the things that matter for you and ask yourself, is this in alignment with me? Is it the right time? Is it aligned with me? Is it in divine timing? And does this have to be me? Or can I seek support?

So just coming full circle to how we started this conversation, I just want to acknowledge that I know many of you are experiencing scarcity, lack of trust in some way, because I've been getting messages and you're seeking freedom. You're seeking the freedom to just want normalcy and to be able to relax and to trust into the flow of life, to trust that you're safe, to trust in others, to trust in the good of the world, to trust in the information that you're receiving, to trust in your well being, to trust it in abundance, to trust that you're held. Many of you are seeking that right now. 

One of the most wonderful ways to get there is through connection. Connection with others, with like minded people, connection to yourself, connection to God, journaling, presence, connection. Support. The people that are thriving right now are the people who have given themselves permission to be supported, to connect and thrive with others.

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Jen Mons is an author, speaker, mentor and coach for high achieving purpose driven ready to shift the paradigm of feminine leadership and redefine excellence and wealth through 5 Element Wellth, Prosperity, Journaling and Soul Wisdom Imprinting.