The Shadow of Your Soul's Calling
We're going to dive into the topic of the shadow around living your soul's expression. There's always the light and the shadow to everything that we do, every belief that we have, every experience, there's always a different perspective. The experience of itself is unity, but there is duality within the experience. It's part of it that is the wholeness.
The shadow is what I would call the attachment to answering your soul's, calling living your soul's purpose, or accessing your soul's wisdom. It starts in the attachment to it. It starts in the belief that it is what you do, not who you are. That makes you valuable, that makes you who you are. That's where it starts, that attachment in any form is what causes suffering and attachment to an idea, a purpose, a person, a belief. Anytime we are attached to something, we are constructed and limited to only our vision and we exclude the possibility of the expanded vision and the truth, which is that we are all integrated, that every experience that we have is not just about us, it is about everybody, it is about the collective.
When we are attached to our own personal calling, there's a shadow to it. How you can recognize within yourself and with others when it's out of alignment. The balance of showing up unapologetically to you and still able to live in alignment with the higher truth. This is the foundation that everything is just information. It's just a tool for you to see if it lands for you and if it's in alignment with you and if it resonates with you just to give you more information
Let's just start with the belief that you are the expert of you. You are the only person who knows and can learn about what food, what diets are going to work for you, what beliefs hold true for you, what your values are, what your beliefs are, what works for you, what does not work for you, what your fears are. You are the person. There are a lot of tools to help you figure that out. Having a coach or a mentor helps you to figure out your blind spots. So it is really nice to have support because we all have blind spots. We all have hidden ego agendas that we cannot see and it is helpful to have people to help you to see those. I have not met a person yet who is completely aware of all of their ego agendas because if they thought they were, that's probably their ego.
There’s a shadow in being attached to the discovery of your own soul's purpose too. The shadow is in the attachment to that and the belief that it is something that you do, not who you are. We all need to be reminded that it's who we are as a person, not what we do, that matters. Whatever your role is in your life, it's who you are as a person. That's why people connect with you, that's why people trust you. That is how I make choices.
When people don't know how to identify themselves separate from their work and their identity becomes their work, there's a little bit of an unhealthy relationship there. It's important to be able to connect with people with who they are, if they're serving you, if they're your doctor, if they're your financial advisor both in and out of work.
It helps to be reminded of what's really important at the end of our life. It is who we are and what matters most to us, it's not what we do. What we do can come and go but who we are is who we live with, it's how we show up in our life. Remember that any attachment to it is unhealthy.
We know that we're out of alignment when we feel overwhelmed and exhausted, we are out of alignment. And so learning to lean into that, to feel the discomfort. The hard part is that sometimes you have the knowledge that something is out of alignment but it's not what you want to see. Sometimes we want to see things in other people that we want there to be a different truth. Like if you're in a relationship with somebody, if you're in a marriage or in a friendship or a partnership of some sort and you get a feeling or a sense that something is out of alignment but you're questioning whether it's you. But you know that your body's speaking to you in a way. Now you have to develop a relationship with your body to know what it is that is speaking to you, to come up with your own cues on when something's out of alignment. Once you figure that out and you know that then it is your responsibility to listen to it because the body doesn't lie. The body is not the mind, it is not the heart. It has its own intuition. It is the heart's intuition, but it's not the thoughts because the thoughts quickly come after intuitive fits and it gets very confusing because we then believe that what we feel is what we think we feel.
When we go back into the body and we really access that body wisdom and we give ourselves permission to explore what it is that's there when we come to clarity from a grounded place. So the shadow not only in the attachment is in the thinking that whatever it is that we think we're here to do is only meant for us and it's only about us. You'll hear people sometimes say that it's okay to show up unapologetically. Although I agree that we are here to be who we're meant to be unapologetically, I would offer that there is some space of awareness in just knowing that when we are in alignment with higher self, with source, with God, then there is no reason to even think that we have to be apologetic. Those ego agendas don't even come in because we're embodying our truth. We don't have to say it, we're already embodying it. Oftentimes if we think we have to say it, then there's room for discernment about why we think we have to say it.
If we think we have to be apologetic or not unapologetic about something, I think the invitation is really asking like why do I notice that I need to say this or feel this way because if we're out of alignment, not only are we overwhelmed or tired or exhausted, but people can get hurt. This is the tricky part. This is very difficult because if you're in a relationship with somebody who you feel is not serving you, is it really about what's not serving you? Or is it really about leaning in deeper and being curious about why it's not serving you? What there is to be learned about you, not why the other person isn't meeting your needs, but what within you is not being met. That's the deeper question, because sometimes what happens is a way that we protect ourselves from being hurt or from our own hidden ego agendas, our own fears, our own insecurities in relationships. Specifically, whether it's a relationship with work, with food, with our body, with a business partner or marriage or whatever it is, whatever that relationship is, if there's a fear underneath of it. Sometimes what we do subconsciously is we create a situation where if we don't think that we're good enough or we're afraid of something or we think that we're no longer supposed to be in this relationship anymore, then we create an experience where the person doesn't have a choice and that usually ends up hurting them. That's the part where, in that case, don't be unapologetic. Don't make it about you.
There is no right or wrong. Everybody has their own belief. When we have such an attachment to a belief that we're here to do something that we are unaware of how other people feel, we feel we have the right to be unapologetic about our mission. There's something underneath that because nothing that we do or say ever is just about us. If you don't see that bigger picture, then you already are in your ego. If we're serving our higher self, if we're serving God, if we're serving the divine love and universe, then we're already looking from the perspective of unity. We're already considering that every choice, every decision, every word we speak affects everybody. That actually is our purpose. It is to embody and be our truth in this larger integrated network of energy that is happening while simultaneously in the unity of it, having the awareness of how we show up in that space, for us to just say that we can just do whatever we want because it is what we're here to do unapologetically. It has a shadow. We can do both. We can be both.
When we are in alignment with being and embodying our truth, our wisdom, when we are committed and devoted to our own personal growth in the balance of being and becoming, in a place in the acceptance, the healing is the acceptance of where we are, when we do and be, when we integrate and learn, when we're in that flow and we see ourselves connected with everybody around us, and we make choices and we use words that are in alignment and grounded from that place, not serving the ego agendas then it is possible for us to express, be the expression of ourselves in a healthy way. To be fully embodied in that healthy way. And in that place you will find freedom, peace, joy, health, wealth, fulfillment and connection. If you are not in that place, you will not have those things and no matter what you believe it is that you're here to do, you will keep searching, but you will not feel those fully integrated, embodied experiences. You will have your results either way. If you're meant to do something in this life, you will do it. But it's how you do it and who you are when you're doing it that really matters. Because the work that you're doing is not who you are.
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Jen Mons is an author, speaker, mentor and coach for high achieving purpose driven ready to shift the paradigm of feminine leadership and redefine excellence and wealth through 5 Element Wellth, Prosperity, Daily Devotion Journaling and Soul Wisdom Imprinting.
