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Uncertainty May Be a Need for Connection Not Information

Uncertainty, what it really means and how it shows up for us and what it is that we need to move through it. 

Uncertainty is a lack of connection. What does that mean? What we do when we believe that uncertainty is due to a lack of information is that what we're saying is that either we believe we haven't been given the information or the knowledge that we need to make. A decision or there isn't clarity in the information that we've received. We're depending on an external source to provide us with what it is that we think we need, which is information or clarity or resources. 

Although there is a lot of value in resources and information and knowledge, what I know to be true for me and what this conversation is really about is an invitation to discover that it's an internal experience that is asking for connection to the intuition, the clarity within you, in how you might or may not be receiving the information that is available to you.

When talking about information, we’re really talking about connection, messages and synchronicities in your life. There's an abundant source of information around us all the time. It's just that maybe it's not in the way that we think we're supposed to receive information. We're looking for other people to provide us with answers. We're looking to other people to provide us with information. We're looking for statistics, we're looking for data, we're looking for an answer. The shadow in that is that we have an expectation on the solution itself, the result. We think that when we receive or understand the information, that we have the answer and that we get certainty. 

What we're really missing is a lack of connection to self and our personal truths, or a lack of connection to others that are in the same energy learning the same things. The lack of awareness about the possibility of the experience, the possibility of seeing the value in others perception of the experience, therefore taking in more information. The lack of connection to source, to spirit, to God, to divine love. Universal energy to everyone on the planet.

There's three ways that show up, we're disconnected from self, from others, community or tribe, and from source. Consider for a moment if this is possible for you. Do you find yourself seeking certainty and clarity in your life through sources of information? There are people that can help you to tap into the clarity and the wisdom that you're looking for. It's helpful to have a person to do that, really, because we all have blind spots.

Our body is our greatest tool. It's the somatic inquiry process, the going within the body and the body wisdom as being a really wonderful tool that communicates with us. We are living, breathing mammals, human beings, most of us thrive in some type of connection. Connection to earth, connection to nature, connection to not just our own bodies, but to others,connection to movement, connection to joy. We have an abundant ability to create relationships and connection with different relationships in our life. Not purely connection to self, others and source. There are other means of connection that are within ourselves.

We see these matriarchal tribal communities created in nature. Part of the feminine energy that is rising is the coming together and the connection and the community of sharing the experience together. It's like proclaiming your connection to self and sharing it with others in the way that we see ourselves through the reflection of our relationships with others. There is a part of our soul that wants to cocreate through connection with ourselves, with others.

Navigate the relationship to uncertainty. How it shows up in your life, how it makes you feel, what your beliefs are about it. There might be some fear there, there might be some avoidance, right? These are the things that we can do when something's not clear. There are emotions that can arise. It can make some of us angry. Like we need the answer right now. It can be uncomfortable for some people. It can turn into an introspective time where we go within and reflect and seek the answer. It's just wherever you are in your life and what works for you and you'll know what works for you because it'll feel good. If it feels uncomfortable, it's just learning to trust. Like how do you know if it's in alignment with you?

Learning to know what's in alignment for you is like a super valuable tool. We all process ambiguity and uncertainty in different ways. Certainty is really just a need for connection. Maybe it's connection to the right resources or information, but it's more in the energy of the flow of the relationship to self, toothers, to information, to community, to tribe. As you're looking to navigate this possibility, consider how does it show up for you when you feel uncertain? What are the emotions that come up? What actions does it lead to? What are you really seeking? What is the need underneath? For some people they want to feel safe. For some people they want to be right. For some people they need resolution. So just kind of noticing what your relationship is with uncertainty that can allow you the opportunity to discover what it is that you do need. Maybe for some of you, but maybe there is that possibility of the need for connection to self to go within, to be introspective, to have some self reflection. Maybe it's the connection to nature to bring you closer to yourself. Maybe it's a connection to joy, to pleasure. Maybe it's connection to something that feels like there's a need that's under the surface and maybe it's connection to others to learn from.

If you think about what uncertainty does not have what it requires, it requires trust. It requires a lot of trust to sit in the space of ambiguity and who are you putting that trust in. We are all being called to step into our truth and to trust, to trust our relationships to self. First source, then self, and third, to tribe or community.

There's a completely different personal growth edge that happens in the community. It's powerful to learn the skills that it takes to really connect with people, learn the skills of active listening and compassion and support and non attachment and letting go of some of the shadow that might come out in connection. This can look like rescuing or over giving or wanting to overly maybe help somebody. There's a sacredness in just being in a group, in a space together where we do allow other people to just have their process from a place of witnessing. Because sometimes if we jump into rescue too quickly, we can kind of take their power away. We take away their moment, we take away their ability to go within and listen to their own body or their own answer.

There's a life force energy that comes through when we combine our energy together on the same frequency and the same level, there's just a totally elevated channel that opens up for change because we realize we're not alone and it's really powerful.

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Jen Mons is an author, speaker, mentor and coach for high achieving purpose driven ready to shift the paradigm of feminine leadership and redefine excellence and wealth through 5 Element Wellth, Prosperity, Daily Devotion Journaling and Soul Wisdom Imprinting.